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Your Getting Started Guide to Planning Your Empowered True Natural Birth
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Discover the revolutionary way to plan and get the birth you want, without having to fight, beg, or compromise on your birth plan!
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How to Use This Guide
This is a comprehensive overview of some of the best tips and resources for your Empowered, True Natural Birth. To find what will be most relevant to you and your unique needs, start HERE!
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First of all, welcome! I'm so happy you found this page because you're about to discover powerful secrets to planning AND getting your True Natural Birth experience! If you haven't already done so, please watch the quick video above, which will explain the basics of the Empowered Birth philosophy and signature system. Then, once you have done that, click on the table of contents below to take you to the most relevant sections for you.
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Please refer to this page any time you need some guidance. Additionally, if there's a particular resource or section you think might be helpful to add to this page or you have a burning question not already addressed, you can reach out to me at hello@empoweringmomsbirth.com
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Table of Contents
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Why Choose An Empowered Birth?
Your Complimentary Empowered Birth Starter Kit!
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First Time Mom? Read This Section Before You Do ANYTHING Else!
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Not Your First Baby? This Section is For You!
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Also Planning a VBAC? Make Sure You Check Out These Resources!
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Social Media and Sister Sites for Free Birth Education
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What is An Empowered Birth?
Empowered Birth is a Birth that is 100% aligned with YOUR unique needs, values, and desires! That means that YOU decide what that looks like.
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One size care does not fit all and it's time you get the right mix of education and support customized to YOUR unique birthing journey. While my aim is to help you have a True Natural Birth so you can experience the transformational power of your intuition and what your body is capable of, that's not the ONLY goal.
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Often there's this idea that to have a "good" birth means it HAS TO be 100% natural, but sometimes your intuition might lead you down a different path and that's okay.
You can still have a beautiful, connected, and empowering experience even if you choose medical intervention.
The difference is, that if you choose it, you will know WHY you're choosing it and only call in the help you actually feel you need.
No more Cascade of Interventions and no more "leaving your dignity at the door!"
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An Empowered Birth is one where YOU are the Decision-Maker!
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YOU Make the Rules, NOT Your Care Provider!
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The resources on this site and through our social media channels will help you to plan and get the birth experience you really want, without having to fight any uphill battles with the healthcare system, beg your doctor or midwife to "let you try", or compromise on your birth plan to make others around you feel comfortable with your choices and stay "safe".
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Through the 5 Pillars of Empowered Birth, you'll learn the powerful strategies and tools to advocate for yourself, reclaim your power, and birth your baby with confidence. They will also help you avoid the most common traps moms fall into that lead to unnecessary interventions, preventable cesareans, losing their dignity at the door, and tossing the birth plan out the window.
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Whether this is your first time planning a natural birth or you fell into several traps last time that derailed your plans and robbed you of your full birth experience, we've got you covered!
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Why Choose Empowered Birth?
Have you ever wondered why so many moms who start planning a natural birth at the beginning of pregnancy end up having traumatic and disappointing births full of pain, fear, stress, and often unnecessary medical interventions?
Maybe it already happened to you, or you have just heard so many horror stories that you're worried you won't dilate, won't go into labor "on your own" or something will "go wrong" and you'll have to have a c-section.
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This is the experience of many of the women I've helped over the last decade and it happened to me, too.
I thought I was doing everything "right". I read the books, took the classes, hired a doula and a midwife, planned a homebirth...and I almost got tricked into a c-section I didn't want or need.
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Many of my friends and other women I've connected with weren't so lucky.
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Once I discovered how common this was, I got super fed-up with seeing those stories all the time and I wanted to do something about it that would actually help.
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I dug DEEP into what was happening, and I identified some huge problems with how birth is being taught and how moms even plan their births.
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Here's one of the BIG secrets I discovered...
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Natural Birth education and childbirth education in general has left out a HUGE piece of the puzzle when it comes to planning and actually GETTING a true natural birth experience.
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Either you get the mainstream birth education full of myths and misconceptions that perpetuate the Natural Birth Traps (more on that later) OR you learn all about how birth is supposed to work, but then they leave out the part about the medical system and our birth culture undermining your confidence and your efforts in actually getting that experience.
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Basically, unless your plan is to go full-on unassisted in your entire pregnancy and birth and do it ALL on your own, you're susceptible to falling into these Natural Birth Traps and doubting yourself and your ability to birth.
This leads to you feeling at odds with your family, your friends, your care provider, and the medical system.
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They keep telling you that what you want isn't possible, and you start to wonder if your expectations are too high. Then you fight, beg, compromise, give up, give in...it's a vicious cycle.
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The key to getting OUT of it is NOT more childbirth education, hiring a midwife, planning a homebirth OR hiring a doula. If it was that simple, I wouldn't be here to tell you what I discovered.
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Actually, the key to unlocking your ultimate birth experience is to aim for an Empowered Birth!
This is a birth plan beyond what others will teach you.
The model is simple: You aim for a True Natural Birth, and then have the backup plans, but you'll ONLY pull back as much as YOU feel you need to.
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The second trick is learning how to become the Relationship Leader and inspire your family, your partner, your doula, and your care provider into letting go of their agendas and fears around you having full autonomy, and instead trusting YOUR intuition and following YOUR lead.
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It's a total Power Move and given the success that my clients and friends have had with this method, I am confident it will work for you too.
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This system works whether you're a first time mom and don't know what to expect, a seasoned mom who wants to plan a natural birth for the first time, or you already tried a natural birth and realize now that you were robbed of the true experience and you want better this time!
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I've included a bunch of free resources below, including tips for you whether you're a first time mom or you've already had one (or more) disappointing birth experiences and know you deserve better this time. In addition to these resources, I'll also tell you more about the Empowered Birth method and how you can learn it for yourself, as well as how to contact me for more targeted support to help you get your dream birth!
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No matter your budget and time constraints, you deserve an Empowered Birth, so take some or all of what you feel is best suited for your current needs and make sure to pay it forward and pass this on to other moms seeking a True Natural Birth experience!
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First Time Mom?
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How to Plan and Get Your Empowered Birth and Avoid The Pain of Birth Trauma and Disappointment
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First of all let me just congratulate you for taking this step to get the right education with your first baby. If you follow what I'll be teaching you, then you will be able to successfully avoid the harshest lesson I learned as a first time mom.
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Benefits of planning your FIRST birth as an Empowered Birth include:
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Avoiding a lot of the pain, fear, and trauma that so many moms experience in their births
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Avoiding a preventable c-section
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Avoiding the pressure to induce labor
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No longer feeling like a "bad mom" just because you don't want to do a test, exam, or undergo an induction or c-section that doesn't feel right to you
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You'll be able to fully trust in your body and your instincts in your birth
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You'll have a faster recovery, no regrets, and a beautiful birth experience you'll actually want to remember
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The Biggest Trap You Can Fall Into as a First Time Mom
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Relying on Family, Friends, and the Mom Groups to tell you "what to expect"
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The truth is that our birth culture is laced with traumatic birth stories, and if your goal is to have a natural birth as natural as possible, without anyone touching you or making you do things you don't want, or doing things TO you, then you have to go in with your mind SET on having this experience AND avoid anyone who wants to "warn" you or tell you that you won't be able to cope with the pain.
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Too often there are two camps in these mom groups: The moms who had a natural birth and may not be aware that they were just extremely lucky, and the moms who tried, "failed", and are now convinced that natural birth is way more traumatic and painful than it needed to be AND are also convinced that they "had to" have a c-section because "birth doesn't work".
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Why It's Important to Get It Right The First Time
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When you plan your first birth you have EVERY advantage within the medical system and our birth culture because you have never given birth before. That means that if you manage to "do it right" and do it effortlessly, no one will ever question whether you will go into labor on your own, whether your babies are "too big" to birth, or whether you're even capable of having a natural birth without a lot of "help".
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Plan a homebirth or at the very least aim for a True Natural Birth for your first experience, and you also avoid a lot of the typical traps within the medical system that screw up a perfectly normal labor.
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As a first time mom, you are more likely to go past 40 weeks, BUT the truth is that MOST babies come on their own after their due date. You're not alone and there's nothing wrong with going past 41 weeks. The medical system has unfortunately forgotten that though, and if you're not careful you could fall into the Induction Trap or Cesarean Trap due to your care provider saying your baby is "too big", "too small", or you're "overdue" or "not showing signs of labor starting" or any number of things that scare you into thinking you can't do it...and because this is your first baby you don't actually have any proof that you CAN do it.
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The problem is, if you wind up having a c-section or induction that you don't actually need then that will limit your options next time in what is offered to you, and you'll have a lot more fear and trauma to work through to plan and get your True Natural Birth the next time...if you even feel confident enough for there to BE a next time, that is. Far too many mamas are "one and done" due to previous birth experiences that were horrifically painful and traumatic. Don't let that be you.
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Start your Empowered Birth journey with these resources!
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Get the Birth You Want: First Time Mom Edition--a video class designed to help you avoid falling into the most common Natural Birth Traps
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Your Crash Course to a True Natural Birth-- a video class that teaches you everything you need to know about the True Natural Birth process vs what the medical system thinks is "Natural Birth"
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Already Had One Or More Disappointing/Traumatic Births?
Reclaim The Birth Experience You Were Robbed of The First Time!​
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First of all let me just tell you how sorry I am that you learned the hard way. Believe me, you're not alone, and it's precisely because I was robbed of my own birth experience and lost my power and my voice in the birth room that I got into this work and spent a decade helping women just like you reclaim what was lost. The good news is that you CAN heal and get a better experience this time, so whether you're already pregnant or just planning ahead for your next baby, OR you're still trying to decide if you can face another pregnancy after what you went through last time, this is for you.
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Benefits of planning an Empowered Birth this time include:
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Avoiding the pain, fear, and trauma that you experienced before
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If you had a c-section (or multiple) before, you have much higher odds of having a VBAC this time (no matter how many scare tactics the medical system use to discourage you)
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Avoiding the pressure to induce labor just because you hit an arbitrary date on the calendar
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No longer feeling like a "bad mom" just because you don't want to do a test, exam, or undergo an induction or c-section that doesn't feel right to you
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You'll be able to fully trust in your body and your instincts in your birth
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You'll have a faster recovery, no regrets, and a beautiful birth experience you'll actually want to remember
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You'll heal from your previous birth experiences by taking complete control of your body and your choices this time, and you'll learn how to stand up to your care provider WITHOUT feeling like you have to argue, fight, convince, or beg them to "let you" birth naturally
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You'll prove to yourself once and for all that your body was never "broken" and you'll learn how to tune in, trust yourself, and LOVE your body for what it can do
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You'll know IF and WHEN to call in medical assistance; it will 100% be YOUR decision. No regrets!
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The Biggest Trap You Can Fall Into as a Seasoned Mom
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Believing that What Happened Last Time Will Happen Again
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So...birth didn't go the way you expected the first time (or first few times) and you're wondering what you did wrong, right? Well, let me just tell you something I tell all my clients who come to me: 9 times out of 10, it wasn't YOU who failed. The medical system failed you. Our birth culture failed you. But YOU did NOT fail.
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Whether you were told your baby was "too big", "too small", that you "don't go into labor on time", that you "failed to progress", or that there was some other reason why you couldn't birth naturally OR you had been scared and talked out of even attempting a natural birth, the result is the same: You aren't sure you can do it because you have a track record now of not being able to do it.
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The other possibility is that like me, you DID it, but you also crumbled under pressure and gave in or compromised on what you really wanted in your birth, and now you have serious regrets about that AND fear that you won't be able to advocate for yourself again when push comes to shove.
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Here's the thing: What happened last time can't be undone, but you can still take those lessons and move forward and plan a better experience this time. You're going to learn a LOT more about what traps you might have fallen into, and that will help you realize your body was never the problem.
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You might also benefit from checking out some of the success stories of Empowered Moms who were robbed of their beautiful birth experience the first time, and then reclaimed their power and experienced True Natural Birth.
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Why You DESERVE to Get it Right This Time
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Do you know what I hear most often when I speak to mature women who are past childbearing age?
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"I wish I had met you when I was having my babies."
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Birth trauma and control in the medical system has been going on for DECADES! Many women in their 50s and over were not even aware of all that was taken away from them or even had a name for what they experienced. For generations, women just didn't talk about it. "A healthy baby is all that matters" and "Leave your dignity at the door" aren't just disempowering and frustrating mantras, they're literally what our mothers and grandmothers experienced and were told, and then internalized.
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It's only in the last 30 years that light started to be shed on this issue, and only about 10 years since real movements were formed to expose birth trauma and the disrespect and abuse in maternity care.
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Up until the 1990s, there was no such thing as Informed Consent in childbirth. Your doctor could just cut you, pull your baby out, or do whatever else they deemed "necessary" and you wouldn't be able to say no OR file a complaint. Things ARE changing, but it takes years for society to catch up and there's still a long way to go. This is why becoming the Relationship Leader is so important; you'll help inspire your family, your friends, your care provider, and your partner to unlearn all those biases and fears that you aren't capable of birthing without heavy intervention.
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So if you had a c-section last time, that doesn't mean you're doomed to have another one AND it also doesn't mean that your birth has to be heavily monitored and controlled either. I support mothers who want a hands-off VBAC experience all the time, and they have proven that when you aim for the True Natural Birth model, birth just unfolds so much easier.
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The other reason you deserve this, besides proving everyone wrong about what you're capable of, is that you'll have a MUCH easier recovery this time. You'll feel like Super Mom, and caring for a new baby AND your older kids will just be so much more pleasant without the birth trauma and physical trauma piled on top of it. You'll also transform into a much more confident and POWERFUL version of yourself. You'll be in tune with your body and be able to track your energy more efficiently to avoid burn out as you navigate that first year. You'll THRIVE and also know how and when to call in support without any shame or regret and you'll have powerful communication tools to create a more connected relationship with your partner and your children.
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Finally, by having your partner as an active participant in your Empowered Birth journey, they'll feel like your greatest advocate and protector, AND you'll both fall deeper in love than you ever dreamed possible by sharing in this experience together.
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Start your Empowered Birth journey with these resources!
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Your Crash Course to a True Natural Birth-- a video class that teaches you everything you need to know about the True Natural Birth process vs what the medical system thinks is "Natural Birth"
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Planning a VBAC? Make Sure You Check These Out Too
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Will Your Care Provider Support VBAC?
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Get Your Ultimate Road Map to Empowered Birth!
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How to Plan and Get The True Natural Birth Experience You Deserve whether this is your first baby or your fourth!
This is NOT your typical birth book!
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When planning a natural birth, the most logical thing to do is to pick up a book on how natural birth works and learn how to best prepare your body for birthing.
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This book isn’t that.
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Those kinds of books will not help you have a natural birth. In fact, they might undermine your efforts of actually having one, and then you’ll discover the terrible truth that I found out when I had my son.
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You see, I was the first time mom who went out and consumed birth for 9 months.
I read the books, the blogs, and took the classes. I’m here to tell you that information itself is not enough, and I’ll tell you why and what to do differently in this book.
If you’ve already given birth before, and your desire had been to have a natural birth “as natural as possible”, then you likely already discovered the truth I’m going to reveal to you, and you want to know what you did “wrong” so that you don’t get screwed over again.
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If this is your first baby, then by reading this book you’re going to save yourself a lot of pain, trauma, frustration, anxiety, and overwhelm that many of us who have come out the other side of our first births desperately wish we had known.
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The Empowered Birth method of planning your True Natural Birth means that you have to play the game differently from what most moms do when attempting a natural birth in the medical system.
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You can’t put all your faith in the “experts”. Instead, you must recognize that you already know how to birth your baby naturally. You’ve simply been taught through our birth culture and the maternity care system that you need help and can’t do it without them.
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If you haven't read my story yet and you've stumbled upon this page by chance, then let me tell you the quick version of how I discovered this secret:
I was once absolutely terrified of childbirth and was the very last person my family and friends would have expected to plan a homebirth. Then I got tricked out of it, got good and mad about that, and became a birth advocate, educator, and finally a birth empowerment coach who helps moms reclaim their FULL autonomy and power in the birth space.
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I had the pleasure of experiencing True Natural Birth with my second baby, and I discovered that there's a beautiful transformation that happens when you tune into your intuition and birth with instinct, and stop letting other people control the process. There's far less pain when you are able to fully surrender to it, and you come out the other side as a more powerful version of yourself. You are reborn as the woman you were always meant to be; the fully connected mother who goes after all her dreams and shows her children how to do the same.
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Over the years I have watched many women try and often fail to get the births they really wanted, and they all had one thing in common: they were told they couldn’t do it, shouldn’t do it, or that they needed to lower their expectations and be prepared to leave their dignity at the door.
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It is horribly disempowering to be told that someone else gets to decide what you can do with your own body, but that’s been the reality in maternity care and birth culture for generations.
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You’re either “too small” or “too fat”.
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“Too young” or “too old”.
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You don’t have a “proven pelvis”.
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You “don’t go into labor on your own”.
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Your body is “broken.”
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You’re “not allowed”.
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It just rubbed me the wrong way and the more I heard these things the more I just wanted to DO something truly revolutionary to help as many mothers as possible.
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"Your Empowered Birth" is the book I wish had existed when I was having my children. It's a road map to help you navigate the system and our birth culture in a whole new way, and the women who have already followed this system have been amazed by what they've been able to do.
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If you want to feel confident in saying NO to your care provider, or to plan a homebirth when everyone around you is scared out of their minds, or you just want to avoid the stress, anxiety, and overwhelm as you plan your birth your way, then this book is the answer to the questions you didn't even realize you had!
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Click the button below to learn more!
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Want to know the latest insights, tricks, and solutions I've come up with to help my high-level clients in my coaching programs so that you can advocate for yourself and get your partner on board, get your family off your back, and get your care provider to actually follow your birth plan?
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Want to hear some incredible birth stories and watch powerful interviews with birth, parenting, and pregnancy experts who believe in a holistic and mother-centered approach to conscious birth and parenting?
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Then make sure you're also following our social media channels and sister websites!
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YouTube is where I host all the recorded free classes and interviews for a holistic approach to birth, pregnancy, and motherhood
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Instagram is where I host my Live talks and soapbox on a variety of topics related to birth and pregnancy.
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Facebook is where you can follow our written posts, videos, and shared content with others in our network who follow the Empowered Birth philosophy
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The Birth House Network, our sister website and birth house database, contains blog posts to help you navigate the medical system, especially if you've been labeled "High Risk" and still want a fully autonomous, natural birth experience. We also have merchandise for purchase, including sassy tee shirts and hoodies to show your care provider and nosy mother-in-law who's in charge in your birth space.
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Everything you desire in your birth IS possible!
Even if you’ve had one or more cesareans…even if you were induced…you can change your story!
You CAN take your power back and create the kind of birth story that lights you up whenever you share it.
I want you to picture it…you’re holding your new baby in your arms.
You’re staring down at them with such love and awe.
And you feel this wave of energy washing over you…you’re bathing in that warm afterglow.
You can’t help but fall in love with your body and what it just did for you!
You feel powerful, alive, and you know that life from this moment onward is going to be so different.
Every time you tell your birth story to someone, you can’t help but smile, and you can confidently say “I did it!”
You’ll take the lessons you learned in this birth and you’ll realize that you can do anything!
You’ll come to your motherhood already more confident, having been able to tap into your intuition, and you’ll be able to kick all self-doubt out the door once and for all.
Now…pull back for a moment and see the path that led you to that moment of triumph.
Think about when other people tell you that you “can’t” or “shouldn’t” choose to birth on your terms.
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Picture how confident you will be to do it anyway.
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In just a few weeks, your life could completely transform!
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You can become a more confident, empowered version of yourself.
A true Empowered Mom!
One who plans birth from a place of power, and is a conscious role model!
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You can show every woman in your family a better way.
You can show your children a better way.
You’ll have more connection to yourself, and by extension you will be able to connect deeper to your partner and to your family.
The time has come for you to step into your power and see just how capable you are to birth your baby on your own terms!
So, if you’re ready to take the leap and work with me directly either 1-1 or through one of my Empowered Birth coaching programs, then click the button below and fill out this quick intake form and I will get back to you within 1-2 business days.
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Your Empowered Birth Awaits You!
I'm so pleased that you've decided to take control of your pregnancy and birthing journey! The women I've already helped to have this experience have expressed their deepest gratitude for what I've shown them, and I know that when you take the time to learn the 5 Pillars of Empowered Birth and utilize the resources on this site and through social media that you will see just how powerful and transformative your birth can be!
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Remember that you only get ONE chance to birth THIS baby, and you deserve to have it be the most beautiful and life-affirming experience.
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You do not have to suffer trauma or leave your dignity at the door.
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You do not have to feel like a human pin cushion or a piece of meat.
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You can instead take full control and become a powerful birthing goddess capable of anything!
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I look forward to serving you, and should you ever have any questions just reach out to me at Carly@EmpoweringMomsBirth.com and I will do my best to assist you.
Happy Empowered Birth Planning!
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~Carly