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The Labor Traps: Sneaky Things That Derail Your Natural Birth (Part 3)




Did you know that the very things you've been taught to do when planning a natural birth will set you up to fail? In fact, a lot of advice out there on how to cope during labor or what to expect can lead to you getting a trip to the OR for a cesarean. I have coined the term Labor Trap when discussing a lot of the things that lead to you getting tricked into medical interventions when your body is actually capable of physiological birth. If you want to know more about the Labor Traps, go here to part 1.


Today I'm diving deeper into the traps you can fall into once you're in labor, because even if you manage to avoid many of the scare tactics that lead to a lot of moms thinking they won't go into labor on their own, once labor actually starts you still gotta watch out for the Labor Traps!


These are the beliefs, attitudes, cultural expectations, misconceptions and medical practices that are so routine in maternity care and our birth culture that you don't think twice about them.


They're the things you see most often in the mom groups and in mainstream childbirth education that are leading you right down the exact path you don't want: the path to a cesarean, induction, episiotomy, forceps delivery, or simply a birth where you lose all control and things happen to you that you didn't ask for, didn't want, and might not have even agreed to if you'd known the risks and that you had other options.


In other words, these are the things that seem obvious in hindsight as you learn how birth really works and your own psychological and emotional needs during labor, but they aren't easy to spot beforehand because it seems like it's just "normal" and "to be expected."


You can watch the full video and then read more about how I came to discover these Labor Traps and how to avoid falling into them yourself below.





So, how did I figure this out and how can you avoid falling into these traps and the many, many others that are so common in our birth culture?


First, let me tell you a story:


When I was supporting my friend Christine through planning her Empowered Birth with her last baby we knew one thing before labor started: It would be a hell of a lot easier than the hell she'd endured with Pitocin the first time.


So when she sent a message to me telling me she was in early labor a few months after I'd experienced a relatively painless labor with my own child, I assumed that she would have her baby in a few days. She had told me that contractions weren't that bad and that she had already gone for a walk to try to get things moving.


Christine had gone past her due date and been pushed into an induction with her first baby, so going into labor on her own at 41 weeks and 4 days was a new experience for her. She was determined to keep things going, and she was also determined to labor at home as long as humanly possible before heading to the hospital.


In our community it is very difficult to get a hands-off birth in the hospital, let alone try for a VBAC, but because Christine and I were both local birth advocates at the time and knew our rights, she had a huge advantage in knowing what she could do to avoid being pressured by the doctors and nurses.


Christine continued to have some pretty mild contractions in terms of the pain she was experiencing, however her doula could see that things were definitely progressing by the sounds she was making and how she had to concentrate through a surge. She suggested that Christine get ready to head to the hospital.


They never made it out the door! Suddenly Christine's waters released and they immediately called the midwife and the ambulance to come to her. Christine continued to remain relaxed through her fast labor and the midwife actually had to ask her to stop doing her hypnobirth exercises because the baby was coming "too fast".


Christine later told me that the only painful part of labor was when she wasn't able to stay in her "labor trance"; which I can attest to because I experienced the same thing with my own birth, however Christine had also never experienced physiological labor before.


So what's the takeaway here? If you've only ever given birth in a heavily controlled setting where there are a lot of interruptions, or worse, you were given Pitocin, then I have good news: You may experience far less pain at home!


You might even experience little to no pain at all if you really tune into your body and let go of the idea that your labor is going to get worse as it progresses. In fact, a lot of the fear of pain is due to the conditioning of our birth culture and medical system and when you have that mindset going in then it can cause you to tense up and lead to the exact horror you want to avoid.


There's another problem with believing that labor has to be painful for it to progress though, and that is why a lot of nurses will turn moms away and say "you're not in labor yet" only for them to give birth in the lobby, in their car, or even in the parking lot! If you feel your baby is coming then it doesn't matter that you're "not in enough pain" from what someone else can see. Trust your instincts.


The first step to having a birth with less pain and less fear though is having the Right Mindset, which is the first of 5 Pillars of Empowered Birth. You can learn more about these pillars in my complimentary e-book, Your Empowered Birth.


In this book you will learn the entire Empowered Birth System and how you can use it to get your dream birth experience and avoid the biggest traps when it comes to planning a natural birth.


You'll be able to avoid crumbling under the pressure of an OB or midwife who is pushing for you to have a vaginal exam (even though you now know that your cervix is not a crystal ball).


You won't feel like you have to get into labor by your due date, which will allow you to rest as you need to and just not worry about it. You won't get tricked into the many traps that lead to "failure to progress" and you won't automatically transfer to the hospital unless you want to go in.


You also won't hire anyone who doesn't fully support you and believe in your ability to birth your baby in your own time, in your own way.


The best part about using this system is that anyone can do it!


You can use this system to plan your birth even if you've been labelled "high risk", if you have a "small pelvis" or you have a high body mass index. You can use it even if you develop Gestational Diabetes.


You can use it even if you've already had one or more cesareans and this is your last attempt to actually experience natural birth, because you know you should be able to do it.


This system is the most versatile and multi-dimensional way to plan and get your birth your way, without having to fight any battles, beg for permission, convince anyone of the "evidence" for what you want, or compromise to make others feel more comfortable with your choices.



  • The Right Mindset: How to get past your fears, create your vision of your ideal birth, and identify any old stories or misconceptions you absorbed from others that are holding you back from getting what you really want.

  • The Right Education: How to start asking the right questions when it comes to any information you are presented with, so that you can filter out what works for you and what you're planning for your birth and what is only going to talk you out of your dream and undermine your confidence in your body's ability to birth.

  • The Right Environment: How to determine where YOU will feel safest to birth, and how to create that environment that will support your ability to find additional resources and support for what you are working toward in planning your dream birth.

  • The Right Facilitators: How to choose the childbirth educator, care provider, and doula who will work for YOU rather than try to tell you how you need to think about things or push their own agenda and plans on you.

  • The Right Support: How to seek out those people who will support what you want to do and cheer you on, so that you no longer feel like you have to convince them or "educate" them, and you don't feel alone in how you want your birth to go.

Plus, when you get this book you will also have accesses to these bonuses:




This is the full list of 20 of the most common Natural Birth Traps that you can download onto your computer or even keep in a Google Drive and access from your mobile devices. It will serve as a quick reminder for both you and your partner on what you want to avoid as you get to the end of your pregnancy.




Forget the cookie-cutter lists of questions to interview a doula. They're full of generic information that doesn't really help you figure out what you really want or if this doula is even a good fit. I've compiled this list specifically because as a doula and childbirth educator I heard the frustrations of my friends in birth work who wished they had clients who were a much better fit for the kinds of services they most love to offer. By reading this short guide, you'll have a clearer idea of what to look for when setting up interviews with doulas and getting referrals, and you won't accidentally hire someone who is not able to fully support your birth vision.



In this quick guide you'll learn about my 5 step framework for asking the right questions and making decisions in your pregnancy and birth that align with what is most important to YOU, so that you don't fall for the common scare tactics that lead to being talked into inductions, cesareans, vaginal exams, or anything else you've decided you don't want. You'll also know how to weigh the true risks and benefits when something comes up in your pregnancy that puts you outside the very narrow view of what's "normal" (that doesn't exist in the first place).


There's a few other goodies I've included as well, but you'll have to get the book first to find out what they are! Just click here and you'll be taken to our sign up page where you can enter your name and email. Once you do that you will instantly receive your copy of Your Empowered Birth in your inbox and information on how to grab the rest of your bonus guides as well.


You're probably wondering why I would give all this away for free.


The truth is that this system is incredibly valuable and I could easily sell it for hundreds of dollars.


In fact, people pay me thousands of dollars per month for me to walk them through their own personalized Empowered Birth plan and support them as they work through their fears and learn how to communicate their wishes to their care provider, doula, and even their partner.


The problem is that this system works SO well that when women hear about it they want to work with me too...however I only have so much time in any given day. So in 2022 I set out to write the entire system out, step by step, so that if someone either couldn't afford my coaching packages or didn't have the time to sit down each week to meet with me on a call, they could still get the help they deserved.


Again, I could have put this behind a pay wall, but then it wouldn't be accessible to everyone AND this is something of which I am passionate about.


I got into birth advocacy and education because I saw the problems from both sides as a mother who fell into a lot of traps and as a birth worker listening to the stories of my colleagues who desperately want you to know how to read between the lines and see these traps.


I cannot tell you how many doulas have been traumatized by what they saw happen to their clients, of which the mothers had no idea just how they'd been tricked by the medical system. But as doulas we can't really interfere with your choices, and we can only present information and then cross our fingers that you pick up on the fine print and decline that vaginal exam or induction.


The problem is that often you don't see what we do, because as I said, these Natural Birth Traps are everywhere. That's why I finally got so tired of seeing you and other moms fall into them that I created this video series and accompanying guide to the 20 most common ones.



So what was the trap that surprised you the most in this video, and did you fall into any of these with your previous births?


Comment below and let's discuss!


~Carly


P.S.


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